Gretchen Rubin wrote the Happiness Project, Happier at Home, The Four Tendencies, as well as quite a few other books. I have read these three as they were the ones available at the library. I have enjoyed her writing. It is great motivation to develop habits that will make your life better for both yourself and others. She does not expect you to be hard on yourself, but to develop habits and routines that help you reach your dreams and to think about what you would like your life to be like. She also encourages you to help others reach their potential according to what they want to do. She admits sometimes to being a "happiness bully" because she wants people to do what is good for them, but as she is, she learns to take a step back and help them be responsible for their own happiness. I have also listened to several videos on youtube where she talks about her books and encourages people to follow through with their happiness projects. I have found her books to be motivational and easy reading. She also has a website and a podcast. I have not been on either of those. I will go to the website and poke around. I think she has a community so if you are and obliger and need outer accountability to accomplish your goals you can use her community as a tool to do so....Ha ha I learned that in The Four Tendencies. I haven't decided if I am an obliger or a questioner (and they are opposites).
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Thursday, January 14, 2021
Author Gretchen Rubin
I went to her website...Gretchen Rubin I like her blog. Lots to read. According to her Four Tendencies quiz, I am an obliger. That was doing the answers without thinking about it. If I thought about my answers I could easily be a questioner. So I am still not sure, am I naturally a questioner and an obliger by a lifetime of training? I love to ask questions, but really like to to things for people too. I have learned to take care of myself before I take care of other though. Life works so much smoother if we follow the priorities we set and let ourselves become what God made us to be.
Tuesday, January 5, 2021
A Draw of Kings by Patrick W Carr
You know a book is good when you have read it before, remember the storyline but still get so engrossed in it you stay up til 2am because you can't stop reading it. That is what I did a couple nights ago with Patrick W Carr's book "A Draw of King's". It is the third in a series. I read the entire series about a year or so ago, but checked this one out of the library on my kindle because I wanted a break from nonfiction and Harry Potter wasn't available. I did want an engrossing book. The series is popular in the library for good reason. I will reread the series and read more of his books.
It is a "coming of age" story with some war and romance and fantasy thrown all together. There is also a lot of mystery. Nothing in this book is crazy graphic, neither the romance or the violence so it is goo to recommend for teen and up. The heroes are great characters and get into and out of a lot of trouble. None of the heroes got into trouble by making dumb choices and there is none of the annoying miscommunications that are so common in romance stories. It is tempting to tell you the story line, but you gotta read it. If you like Harry Potter or Lord of the Rings you will like this series.
Monday, October 26, 2020
Nehemiah
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1 Pray for forgiveness for God's people who are in dire straights.
2 When God gives you a burden and you pray about it, He will clear the way to get it done.
3 &4 People work together, each on a section, and guard each other, and God's work gets done.
5 When fellow Christians are in need, help the without expecting anything back and don't take more than you need.
6 &7 God can complete what He starts but we must stay firm in following His commands. Perfectly reasonable sounding requests by someone may do us harm if they are designed to cause us to disobey a command through fear.
8 Take time to read what God has written to us and rejoice over it because it is Holy. Do not let it burden you. Strive to follow it because He has given you the Holy Book of Life.
9 &10 When we don't follow God's laws, he lets us reap the consequences. But he will always forgive us and bring us back into his will when we repent.
11, 12 &13 We can complete what God wants us to do, have a big celebration, and still let others tempt us to slide into sin. It can take great effort to continue following God's will after a big success. It often seems to be when you are high that you will be low.
I recently read a book by Lynn Austin called "On This Foundation". It was historical fiction based on the book of Nehemiah in the Bible. The author did her research and is an excellent story teller. She got me involved in the characters and storyline. And she changed the way I look at the Bible. The people in the Bible were regular people living their daily lives to the best (or worst, depending on the person) of their abilities. They had their goals, loves,, dramas, good days and bad. Many sought to follow God's will, many followed their own. The people who wrote about the people in the Bible and God's interaction with them, wrote, following what God told them to teach the generation of people they were living in. They didn't know how what they were writing would be translated into many languages (most of which were not even being spoken when they were writing) and impact the entire world for thousands of generations. The people in the Bible could be us. What they wrote applies directly to us. Not as just a code book for how to live life, but as a storyline of all the mistakes we can make and how we can survive bad events, evil people, and poor weather to make good decisions and follow what we hear God telling us if we listen.
Since I read this book, I have been reading a chapter of the Bible (roughly) a day, writing down what is said to me, writing a thank you to God for something, and writing a prayer for someone. I am liking it and learning. Finally after 5x years I have a prayer journal going.
Saturday, October 10, 2020
For the Love by Jen Hatmaker
I am still identifying plants from Kartchner caverns in Arizona. It will probably be Monday before I get that post up. So here is a book review from one of the many books I read on our trip. You will get several of these I enjoyed.
This one is "For The Love" by Jen Hatmaker. I also listened to a book by her, that she read, called Of Mess and Moxie. I did like "For the Love" better, but I am not sure if that is because I like reading better than listening. "Of Mess and Moxie" did have me laughing while driving. I saw that she also has a podcast. I need to learn to start listening to podcasts.
I put a lot of quotes from this book into my evernote notebook. I am not sure if it is ethical to quote long sections of a book, it was a free library book from Houston Public Library, and I make no money from this blog, but I will shorten the quotes and leave you to read the book.
When talking about self-love and criticizing yourself, Jen Hatmaker wrote...
"Folks who thrive in God’s grace give grace easily, but the self-critical person becomes others-critical. We “love” people the way we “love” ourselves, and if we are not good enough, then no one is.
Scripture instructs us to live presently and joyfully, resisting worry and believing Jesus set us free for freedom’s sake. We have an abundance of good and perfect gifts that often look like a messy house full of laughter, a ten-year-old running through a sprinkler, a heart unburdened by comparison, an afternoon nap, joy in using our gifts and leaving the rest to people better suited."
She also talked about prosperity preaching preachers who say if you follow God properly, he will make you rich, etc. I have read a couple of those, they don't tend to quote the Bible much. She said that if the theology being preached doesn't apply to everyone around the globe, it isn't accurate. Her quote...
"If it isn’t also true for a poor single Christian mom in Haiti, it isn’t true. Theology is either true everywhere or it isn’t true anywhere."
People often want to wait and do "big things" for God. She gave examples from the things Jesus did throughout his ministry and said,
"A worthy life involves loving as loved folks do, sharing the ridiculous mercy God spoiled us with first. (It really is ridiculous.) It means restoring people, in ordinary conversations and regular encounters. A worthy life means showing up when showing up is the only thing to do. Goodness bears itself out in millions of ordinary ways across the globe, for the rich and poor, the famous and unknown, in enormous measures and tiny, holy moments."
When we wish for skills or gifts we don't have and wonder why we went through different life events she said,
"It all counts. There are no throwaway qualities. In fact, those qualities might point you in just the right direction. Nothing is wasted: not a characteristic, preference, experience, tragedy, quirk, nothing. It is all you and it is all purposed and it can all be used for great and glorious good."
She spends a chapter reminding us that Jesus was humble and subversive, not loud, aggressive, and demanding.
She talks about how we let people treat us and how we treat each other, reminding us that how Christians treat each other reflects how others will see Christ.
In "Of Mess and Moxie" she talks about her family life, how she and her husband built their relationship, raising her kids, and church relationships. She also criticizes some of her earlier books, she says she has grown and learned through the year (as have we all hopefully) and would like to rewrite them with what she knows now. I will be reading more of her books and will go back to read "Of Mess and Moxie" instead of listening to it.
Sunday, September 6, 2020
Donna Andrews
When I read, I usually stick with nonfiction. I enjoy most of it and find it a little less engrossing than the fiction I like. But, I was in the mood to read fiction, something funny, light, with a bit of suspense. I stumbled across a book by Donna Andrews in the humor/mystery section of my libraries e books. It costs nothing to try a new book this way, so I figured why not? Well, she is a really good writer in my opinion, her story line is realistic, but slightly unpredictable, her characters are very likable, and they are funny enough to make a reader smile, sometimes laugh. Unfortunately, there were 27 books in the series in my library. I read them one after the other for hours at a time. I would finish a book at two in the morning and wake up to start another because I could. Then after a month, I sadly read them all. Her newest one is in my Amazon cart. I don't often buy books, but I might soon buy myself a present. I will wait until I really need a dose of humor again. I wonder when she will write another.
Monday, April 6, 2020
The sun is a compass by Caroline Van Hemert
I really enjoyed the book The Sun is a Compass. It is a travel memoir/ adventure story about a couple who travel 4000 miles under their own power from Washington state to Alaska then across the tundra to the east coast. Reading this book kept me up past midnight on several nights. I didn't want to stop reading it. I know I can't row a hand-built boat in the ocean or scramble up snow covered mountain passes or slog through a muddy tundra or swim and wade across freezing rivers or fight a hunting black bear off, but I really enjoyed feeling like I was there with them while they were doing it. There are beautiful photographs at the end of the book. I would have liked to see the photos first. The pictures in my mind of what the arctic looked like were different than the photos. If I had seen the photos first, my mind pictures while I was reading would have been more accurate. Following is a quote from the book. I checked it out as a library book on my e reader, but if you don't have access to a library, it is worth purchasing.
The Arctic as we know it—a land of persistent ice and snow, a home to walruses and polar bears—is quickly becoming legend. The permanence borne of cold, the secrets locked in ten-thousand-year-old frozen soil, erode a little more each day. Despite the models and studies, none of us can predict exactly what is coming. It’s an experiment with many variables but no standards or controls. There’s only one thing we can be sure of: changes are under way, whether a person, or an entire government, chooses to believe in them or not.
Wednesday, March 4, 2020
England as you Like It by Susan Allen Toth
This book was written in 1995 before it became so easy to plan trips on the internet. The first part of the book tells how she plans her trips to England using maps, choosing houses to rent, how the cook for themselves instead of going out a lot, and how much she enjoys planning the trips. While trip planning is a bit different now, I agree with her that is is fun to study maps, read reviews, and plan trips. Her descriptions of the places she goes in the second two parts of the book are wonderful. I really enjoyed reading of their travels, the hikes, the houses and gardens they visited, the people they met, and her favorite places. I did not know that A.A. Milne who wrote the Winnie the Pooh books set them in part of a real forest called Ashdown Forest and you can hike in it, visit his home and see where the books were set. Books that I would like to read she mentioned are The Enchanted Places by Christopher Milne, and something by Daphne Du Maurier. Ms. Toth's descriptive writing is an example I would like to follow as I learn about writing about my own travels. She relates many funny incidents that really made me laugh. I would like to read more of her books so I can both enjoy them and learn to write more like she does. This book does not seem to be available in an ebook. I bought is at the library sale and will be putting it in the Escapees Library. It is available off Amazon or used.
Thursday, February 13, 2020
Viktor Frankl, In Search of Meaning
I read In Search of Meaning by Victor Frankel a couple of weeks ago. He was a Jew who wound up surviving 3 concentration camps in Germany. In this book, he describes his experiences in the camps, what got him through and helped him survive, how he recovered after and helped other people recover, and his psychological theory of Logotherapy. This was a book I read til 2 am one night, then took a couple of days to finish the rest of it. His Wikipedia entry is a generally critical of the choices he made in his life. People seemed to think he was a Nazi sympathizer which is why he survived so long in Austria. I think his theories have a lot of truth, but cannot and should not be the only driving force in someone's life. After all psychology, the human brain, and human life is not simple, and no one theory will account for everything. This meaning that man must search for needs also to find love and compassion, forgiveness and companionship. Following are some quotes from his book and the link to the wikipedia article about him. I will probably look up more of his books to learn more about him. You can check out his book from the library.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Viktor_Frankl

everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms—to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.
An active life serves the purpose of giving man the opportunity to realize values in creative work, while a passive life of enjoyment affords him the opportunity to obtain fulfillment in experiencing beauty, art, or nature. But there is also purpose in that life which is almost barren of both creation and enjoyment and which admits of but one possibility of high moral behavior: namely, in man’s attitude to his existence, an existence restricted by external forces. A creative life and a life of enjoyment are banned to him. But not only creativeness and enjoyment are meaningful. If there is a meaning in life at all, then there must be a meaning in suffering. Suffering is an ineradicable part of life, even as fate and death. Without suffering and death human life cannot be complete. The way in which a man accepts his fate and all the suffering it entails, the way in which he takes up his cross, gives him ample opportunity—even under the most difficult circumstances—to add a deeper meaning to his life. It may remain brave, dignified and unselfish. Or in the bitter fight for self-preservation he may forget his human dignity and become no more than an animal. Here lies the chance for a man either to make use of or to forgo the opportunities of attaining the moral values that a difficult situation may afford him. And this decides whether he is worthy of his sufferings or not.
The Latin word finis has two meanings: the end or the finish, and a goal to reach. A man who could not see the end of his “provisional existence” was not able to aim at an ultimate goal in life. He ceased living for the future, in contrast to a man in normal life. Therefore the whole structure of his inner life changed; signs of decay set in which we know from other areas of life. The unemployed worker, for example, is in a similar position. His existence has become provisional and in a certain sense he cannot live for the future or aim at a goal.
A man who let himself decline because he could not see any future goal found himself occupied with retrospective thoughts. In a different connection, we have already spoken of the tendency there was to look into the past, to help make the present, with all its horrors, less real. But in robbing the present of its reality there lay a certain danger. It became easy to overlook the opportunities to make something positive of camp life, opportunities which really did exist.
Whenever there was an opportunity for it, one had to give them a why—an aim—for their lives, in order to strengthen them to bear the terrible how of their existence. Woe to him who saw no more sense in his life, no aim, no purpose, and therefore no point in carrying on. He was soon lost.
We needed to stop asking about the meaning of life, and instead to think of ourselves as those who were being questioned by life—daily and hourly. Our answer must consist, not in talk and meditation, but in right action and in right conduct. Life ultimately means taking the responsibility to find the right answer to its problems and to fulfill the tasks which it constantly sets for each individual.
“Life” does not mean something vague, but something very real and concrete, just as life’s tasks are also very real and concrete. They form man’s destiny, which is different and unique for each individual. No man and no destiny can be compared with any other man or any other destiny. No situation repeats itself, and each situation calls for a different response. Sometimes the situation in which a man finds himself may require him to shape his own fate by action. At other times it is more advantageous for him to make use of an opportunity for contemplation and to realize assets in this way. Sometimes man may be required simply to accept fate, to bear his cross. Every situation is distinguished by its uniqueness, and there is always only one right answer to the problem posed by the situation at hand.
This uniqueness and singleness which distinguishes each individual and gives a meaning to his existence has a bearing on creative work as much as it does on human love. When the impossibility of replacing a person is realized, it allows the responsibility which a man has for his existence and its continuance to appear in all its magnitude. A man who becomes conscious of the responsibility he bears toward a human being who affectionately
Thus it can be seen that mental health is based on a certain degree of tension, the tension between what one has already achieved and what one still ought to accomplish, or the gap between what one is and what one should become. Such a tension is inherent in the human being and therefore is indispensable to mental well-being. We should not, then, be hesitant about challenging man with a potential meaning for him to fulfill.
What man actually needs is not a tensionless state but rather the striving and struggling for a worthwhile goal, a freely chosen task. What he needs is not the discharge of tension at any cost but the call of a potential meaning waiting to be fulfilled by him.
One should not search for an abstract meaning of life. Everyone has his own specific vocation or mission in life to carry out a concrete assignment which demands fulfillment. Therein he cannot be replaced, nor can his life be repeated. Thus, everyone’s task is as unique as is his specific opportunity to implement it.
we can discover this meaning in life in three different ways: (1) by creating a work or doing a deed; (2) by experiencing something or encountering someone; and (3) by the attitude we take toward unavoidable suffering.
The question was whether an ape which was being used to develop poliomyelitis serum, and for this reason punctured again and again, would ever be able to grasp the meaning of its suffering. Unanimously, the group replied that of course it would not; with its limited intelligence, it could not enter into the world of man, i.e., the only world in which the meaning of its suffering would be understandable. Then I pushed forward with the following question: “And what about man? Are you sure that the human world is a terminal point in the evolution of the cosmos? Is it not conceivable that there is still another dimension, a world beyond man’s world; a world in which the question of an ultimate meaning of human suffering would find an answer?”
Logotherapy bases its technique called “paradoxical intention” on the twofold fact that fear brings about that which one is afraid of, and that hyper-intention
other words, man is ultimately self-determining. Man does not simply exist but always decides what his existence will be,
basis for any predictions would be represented by biological, psychological or sociological conditions. Yet one of the main features of human existence is the capacity to rise above such conditions, to grow beyond them. Man is capable of changing the world for the better if possible, and of changing himself for the better if necessary.
From this one may see that there is no reason to pity old people. Instead, young people should envy them. It is true that the old have no opportunities, no possibilities in the future. But they have more than that. Instead of possibilities in the future, they have realities in the past—the potentialities they have actualized, the meanings they have fulfilled, the values they have realized—and nothing and nobody can ever remove these assets from the past.
You may of course ask whether we really need to refer to “saints.” Wouldn’t it suffice just to refer to decent people? It is true that they form a minority. More than that, they always will remain a minority. And yet I see therein the very challenge to join the minority. For the world is in a bad state, but everything will become still worse unless each of us does his best.
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